A More Connected Mom

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For me, a new year is always a good time to make a fresh start. To renew goals, to make positive changes, and to focus on becoming a better version of myself. One of the things I want for this year is to become a more connected mom. A more hands-on mom. A more in-the-moment mom.

I am blessed to stay home full-time with my two precious little ones. At 1 year and almost 3 years old, they are so fun to be with. They make me laugh all day, they delight in the world around them and they are full of boundless energy. They love to give hugs and cuddles and sing and dance. They are, in a word, fun!

And yet too often I find myself not engaging fully with them.

My mind is running in 57 directions when I sit down with them for meals. My phone is glued to my hand as I sit in the playroom surrounded by their giggles and shrieks. I stress and obsess about the piles of laundry or dishes and cut playtime short so I can work on cooking, cleaning and organizing.

But not this year. This year I’m turning over a new parenting leaf and making a vow to myself that time with my children will be my primary focus.

I vow to leave the phone upstairs more while we’re in the playroom. I vow to keep the laptop closed until they go down for nap or bedtime. I vow to let the dishes and the laundry pile up a little without stressing. I vow to include my little ones in the process of cooking, baking and cleaning, even if it takes longer and isn’t done perfectly. (After all, these things do need to get done at some point, and my children love to help!)

Being a stay-at-home mom means that the majority of household tasks fall to me. But when it comes down to it, dishes, laundry and dirty bathrooms are not the most important part of my job. Raising my children is, and they deserve the most of my time and energy. And really, I want to be having fun with them!

When we’re outside at the playground I want to play instead of standing on the side watching. I want to push them on the swings and laugh as they swish through the sky. I want to run through the grass and stop to examine the plush carpet beneath our feet. I want to point out clouds and slide down the slides.

I want to play dollhouse and trains and cars, not just sit in the same room as these activities go on around me. I want to curl up on the couch and watch a movie with my daughter on rainy days instead of using her movie-time as an opportunity to crack open the computer. I want to read to my son whenever he toddles over with a board book, even if it means stepping away from a half-folded basket of clothes. I want to create crafts with my daughter instead of just providing her with the materials.

And I will! This is the year that I devote myself to being in-the-moment and fully interacting with my kids. Not every second of course…learning how to play independently is important and Mommy definitely needs some down-time. But I want our days to feature more engaged connections than non-engaged ones. I want to take full part in their early childhood, because I know that too soon these opportunities will be gone. They’ll be involved with school and extracurricular activities, and playtime with mom will be low on their priority level. So right now, while I still have this time, I will soak up every minute with them. We will play and dance and just…be together.  Bring it on 2013!


18 comments responses to "A More Connected Mom"

  • Aw, thank you liz! I think you’re a pretty fantastic mom yourself :)

    posted by: meganababymakesfour on January 16, 2013

  • It’s so hard, but I think it’s important! Good luck to you my friend :)

    posted by: meganababymakesfour on January 16, 2013

  • Thank you so much for your sweet words Deb!

    posted by: meganababymakesfour on January 16, 2013

  • Thank you Carla!! And happy new year to you as well :)

    posted by: meganababymakesfour on January 16, 2013

  • Beautiful written Megan!

    posted by: Amanda Paolini Camelo on January 15, 2013

  • This is a beautiful post. It’s so hard, especially needing to write to get noticed, to disconnect and enjoy the now. I hope you can stick to this resolution! I’m pulling for you!

    posted by: Chelley Martinka on January 14, 2013

  • I totally agree Megan and this is something I also need to be more aware of. Just today I found myself running all over the house like a cleaning crazy woman. G was looking at me like I was silly and I decided to let her help vacuum…even if it meant the same spot was cleaned over 100 times. :) Great post!

    posted by: Candice (@TheNewModernMom) on January 14, 2013

  • I need to close the laptop more often and not check the phone as often for sure.

    posted by: Jennifer (Savor) on January 14, 2013

  • Aw- Megan, I loved this post!!! I try to enjoy every single moment with my kids too. It is hard sometimes but I know they won’t be young for too long!

    posted by: melissa weintraub (@dentistmel) on January 14, 2013

  • Megan, this is a beautiful post and has totally inspired me to enjoy every single minute as a mom of toddlers. These moments are fleeting! Thank you, can’t wait to read more of your contributions!

    posted by: Joanna {Baby Gators Den} on January 14, 2013

  • This is a wonderful and inspiring post – we all need to be reminded of this more often, because these younger years won’t last long at all.

    posted by: Dodging Acorns on January 14, 2013

  • I’ve actually been doing that lately, hence the fewer posts.

    posted by: Heather @ Kraus House Mom on January 14, 2013

  • Megan – Your kids are very lucky to have you! Being present is something all of us could probably do a better job of. I admire how much love and devotion you have to your family and am always impressed with how many activities you share with your children. I look forward to hearing about more of them.

    posted by: Sarah {Soxys Diamond} on January 14, 2013

  • Seriously perfect post, Megan. I totally agree, and I need to work on this too.

    posted by: MelissaG813 (@MelissaG813) on January 14, 2013

  • What a wonderful post Megan! I wasn’t going to make a resolution this year – but this is one I think I should make as well. You are a great mom!!

    posted by: Liz {Learning to Juggle} on January 13, 2013

  • love this megan! something i need to do more of myself. :) thank you for the reminder.

    posted by: Liza (Cira's Lyrics) on January 13, 2013

  • Well said, Megan! Time goes by so quickly when they’re little. Learning to stop and enjoy those precious moments often eludes us. Your children are so very lucky to have you as their Mom. Every minute you spend with them now will surely be rewarding for all of you both now and in the future. Shaping your children to become all that they can be is such an important job; one of which you appear to be so very well aware. Enjoy 2013 with your beautiful children!

    posted by: Deb G. on January 13, 2013

  • A wonderful resolution for the new year! We could all use a little more unplugging. Happy new year!

    posted by: Carla @ All of Me Now on January 13, 2013