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Permalink Reply by Cassie Perala on August 23, 2011 at 6:16am

Hi all I have an 8 year old daughter in 3rd grade. She will not do what she is told like bath, brush teeth, cleaning room, anything she is told to do what can i do to get her to do what she is told to do. Please get back to me on this any help would be nice.

 

 

Cassie from Fl

Permalink Reply by Chris Green on August 23, 2011 at 10:38am

Cassie I have an 8yr old 3rd grader this year as well.  I'm wondering what your child does or says when she is told to do stuff? Has this always been a problem you have had with her or is this something new?  With my son I have found the best way to deal with behavior is by using a "token economy" with him.  Start out small with a few things and as she masters them you can add more.  Some people get really into this an use store bought stuff like HERE
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I've found that a jar of marbles works just as well.  My son knows that if I ask him do something and he does it without complaining or having to be told twice, he gets a certain number of marbles.  When he accumulates 25 marbles he can go to the "treasure box".  I put together the treasure box by buying small toys/games/puzzles etc. Usually I get them all from the dollar store or from the dollar aisle at Target.

If you are thinking I don't to reward her for doing something so simple as obeying what she is told.  I totally understand that.  But, I have 6 kids ranging in age from 8 up to 29 and I can tell you they are all wired a little differently.  Sometimes there are one or two where you just have to give them a little more inspiration.  It's worth it in the long run.  Belligerent 8yr olds can wreck havoc on our sanity!!

 

Good luck to you!  Chris

 

 
Cassie Perala said:

Hi all I have an 8 year old daughter in 3rd grade. She will not do what she is told like bath, brush teeth, cleaning room, anything she is told to do what can i do to get her to do what she is told to do. Please get back to me on this any help would be nice.

 

 

Cassie from Fl

Permalink Reply by Autumn Jung on November 23, 2011 at 5:43am

My twins are in 1st grade and in different classrooms.

Permalink Reply by Amy Burd on May 21, 2012 at 4:48pm

I have quite a few concerns. My children aer in 2nd and forth grade this year and one has been bullied and the other has a learning disability that the school didn't adress to my satisfaction. In fact the school made it look like neither one of them were the school's responsibility. I guess my concern would be that the school is giving our children the education and the encoragement that they reallly need and doing their best to keep each one protected.

Permalink Reply by Amy Burd on May 21, 2012 at 4:53pm

Cassie,

My 10 year old is like this, my 8 yr old is a dream and listens. Ummm, For my daughter I take something away. For example, she likes to watch a movie and eat popcorn once a week. If she doesn't listen she loses that privilege. She also likes to play games on the computer so I will cut time in 1/2 or take it altogether. I barely ever take outside time away because I think it's healthy and appropriate for a chld to get outside a few minutes a day. I have also, offered  her something. Like, my daughter likes to go to RIta's Italian Ice so if she listens for an entire week, she will get to go to a specific place she chooses. 

Chris Green said:

Cassie I have an 8yr old 3rd grader this year as well.  I'm wondering what your child does or says when she is told to do stuff? Has this always been a problem you have had with her or is this something new?  With my son I have found the best way to deal with behavior is by using a "token economy" with him.  Start out small with a few things and as she masters them you can add more.  Some people get really into this an use store bought stuff like HERE
.  

I've found that a jar of marbles works just as well.  My son knows that if I ask him do something and he does it without complaining or having to be told twice, he gets a certain number of marbles.  When he accumulates 25 marbles he can go to the "treasure box".  I put together the treasure box by buying small toys/games/puzzles etc. Usually I get them all from the dollar store or from the dollar aisle at Target.

If you are thinking I don't to reward her for doing something so simple as obeying what she is told.  I totally understand that.  But, I have 6 kids ranging in age from 8 up to 29 and I can tell you they are all wired a little differently.  Sometimes there are one or two where you just have to give them a little more inspiration.  It's worth it in the long run.  Belligerent 8yr olds can wreck havoc on our sanity!!

 

Good luck to you!  Chris

 

 
Cassie Perala said:

Hi all I have an 8 year old daughter in 3rd grade. She will not do what she is told like bath, brush teeth, cleaning room, anything she is told to do what can i do to get her to do what she is told to do. Please get back to me on this any help would be nice.

 

 

Cassie from Fl